A body badly burned by alcohol does not often recover overnight nor do twisted thinking and depression vanish in a twinkling. We are convinced that a spiritual mode of living is a most powerful health restorative. (Alcoholics Anonymous pg 133)
I was listening to a conversation today where somebody made a good point. For this person, he always enjoyed the holidays and was fine emotionally throughout the holidays, but the period in January directly after the holidays is always a depressing time for him. After all the excitement, hype, and gathering together of the holidays the abrupt stop that comes somewhere around January second always leaves him struggling.
Every year I try to address those struggling with the holidays, yet I have entirely missed this group. The reality is that many of us in recovery suffer with bouts of depression at many different times. The first thing to keep in mind is that this is normal and will not go away overnight. Second, having ridiculous thoughts and responses to these bouts of depression (i.e. “twisted thinking”) will not disappear overnight either.
In light of these two ideas, a great starting point for dealing with this kind of depression is to remember that they are a normal part of recovery and connect with others in recovery groups, church/spiritual groups, etc. who have similar struggles and share with them.
Another thing to remember when you are struggling with depression is found on page 89 of the Alcoholics Anonymous book:
Practical experience shows that nothing will so much insure immunity from drinking as intensive work with other alcoholics. It works when other activities fail. (Alcoholics Anonymous pg 89)
When you are struggling intensively working with others is always something to think about. The truth is this is a huge part of recovery that many miss out on. This should really be a normal activity that is part of your recovery and not just an emergency measure, but a bout of depression can serve as a reminder to those of us who have lost that focus.
Be careful to notice that the passage on page 89 is describing “intensive work” and not just “service” as what will ensure immunity. Service of any kind is good, but is in reality not what is described here as being the focus of Step Twelve or what will “ensure immunity.”
Something else you can do:
As we go through the day we pause, when agitated or doubtful, and ask for the right thought or action. We constantly remind ourselves we are no longer running the show, humbly saying to ourselves many times each day “Thy will be done.” We are then in much less danger of excitement, fear, anger, worry, self-pity, or foolish decisions. (Alcoholics Anonymous pgs 87-88)
For me personally, I can honestly say that a lot of the circumstances that trigger my bouts of depression are based on the fact that something is not going the way I think it should be going or in a way that makes me comfortable. These moments of meditation and prayer on the fact that; “It’s not all about me” are key to my sanity. This is a big part of what Step 11 is about when you look at that Step practically.
These things often work for what may seem like insurmountable bouts of depression, but sometimes there is depression that is not as manageable with just these measures. For whatever strange reason (some of which may be bad experiences) many of us in recovery are resistant to getting help from mental health professionals and sometimes even from recovery professionals.
But this does not mean that we disregard human health measures. God has abundantly supplied this world with fine doctors, psychologists, and practitioners of various kinds. Do not hesitate to take your health problems to such persons. Most of them give freely of themselves, that their fellows may enjoy sound minds and bodies. Try to remember that though God has wrought miracles among us, we should never belittle a good doctor or psychiatrist. Their services are often indispensable in treating a newcomer and in following his case afterward. (Alcoholics Anonymous pg 133)
The passage describes “fine doctors, psychologists, and practitioners” and I understand that all of them are not “fine doctors, psychologists, and practitioners” but they do exist and you should “not hesitate to take your health problems to such persons.” Ask around, do research and find one. This could save you a lot of unnecessary struggle and pain and in some cases may save your life.
The bottom line is that experiencing depression is a normal part of recovery; it happens to most if not all of us. It is going to happen to you and I at some point (if not regularly) the question is how you manage the depression.