The Joy Of Living

 “…we shall be of little use if our attitude is one of bitterness or hostility.”  Alcoholics Anonymous pg 103 

This is a very important point to all of us in recovery.  Your attitude determines your usefulness to the world.  If you are a person in recovery with a negative attitude, you at the least display to others a negative idea of what the recovery experience is like.

The truth is this is a failure to see and seek one of the key goals of recovery.  Bill Wilson described this clearly on page 15 of the Alcoholics Anonymous book: 

“The joy of living we really have even under pressure and difficulty” 

I personally have seen many who claim great knowledge and understanding of recovery and claiming long periods of sobriety that propagate a negative attitude of life as if it is the way a person with long term recovery should act.  This is a lie and a terrible misrepresentation of what recovery is all about.  What this says to a person seeking recovery is; “I may want recovery because my life is miserable, but being in recovery or being recovered looks more miserable.” 

“But, we aren’t a glum lot.  If newcomers could see no joy or fun in our existence, they wouldn’t want it.  We absolutely insist on enjoying life.”  Alcoholics Anonymous pg 132 

Notice the words “We absolutely insist…”   There is some suggestion that this joy is something we fight for and is not something that just appears. 

My reason for bringing up this topic is to clarify what another one of the goals of recovery looks like. 

This joy is not just a matter of everything in your life being perfect or everything going your way because you are not using.  This joy is rooted in the simple appreciation of two things: 

“But why shouldn’t we laugh?  We have recovered, and have been given the power to help others.”  Alcoholics Anonymous pg 132 

  1. that we have recovery even if it just for the past couple of hours, the past few days or many years.  (we who have recovered from serious drinking are miracles of mental health – Alcoholics Anonymous pg 133)
  2. that we have been given the gift of “the power to help others.” 

Conscious effort is required to maintain the “joy of living” and a focus what may appear to be the simplest of things that may be a miracle such as the fact I am still alive after how I have lived my life and the chemicals I have put into my body, or the other people in recovery I have that are willing to support me, etc.  But, it is a conscious effort to keep that focus. 

“Avoid then, the deliberate manufacture of misery, but if trouble comes, cheerfully capitalize it as an opportunity…”  Alcoholics Anonymous pg 133 

Many of us in recovery are subject to fits of self pit, depression and the like and the truth is that this sort of thing “…does not often recovery overnight nor do twisted thinking and depression vanish in a twinkling.”  (Alcoholics Anonymous pg 133).  It is a process but “the joy of living” must be one of the goals of your recovery.  After all what person who is miserable and tired of using wants to seek a life that is miserable and tired while sober.

The bottom line as stated by the authors of the Alcoholics Anonymous book on page 133:

“We are sure that God wants us to be happy, joyous, and free.  We cannot subscribe to the belief that this life is a vale of tears, though it once was just that for many of us.  But it is clear that we made our own misery.  God didn’t do it.” 

And when you begin to focus on the problems and troubles that appear to be attacking your life (as they do all people on earth): 

“…cheerfully capitalize it as an opportunity to demonstrate His omnipotence.”  Alcoholics Anonymous pg 133.

Seek and maintain Joy;

Continue to Watch (The New You)

Continue to watch for selfishness, dishonesty, resentment, and fear.  When these crop up, we ask God at once to remove them.  We discuss them with someone immediately and make amends quickly if we have harmed anyone.  Then we resolutely turn our thoughts to someone we can help.  (Alcoholics Anonymous pg 84)

This passage appears as part of Step Ten and contains many of the everyday keys to remaining sober and gaining and maintaining happiness. 

Continue to watch for selfishness, dishonesty, resentment, and fear.

Pg 62 of the Alcoholics Anonymous book states that Selfishness and Self-centeredness are the roots of our troubles.  If this is the case then watching for them and preventing them are the roots of our recovery.  If at any point something makes you uncomfortable and you think that means you have to rearrange everyone around you (either by force or manipulation) until you are comfortable you are being selfish. 

Dishonesty is a selfish act and is an attempt to hide reality.  We have lied to others and to ourselves to a point where some of the lies seem true to us.  Lying must go!  It is a habit from a lifestyle that we no linger wish to lead and a poison that will slowly kill our joy and our recoveries.

Pg 64 calls resentment; “…the ‘number one’ offender.”  Pg 66 states plainly that:  “It is plain that a life which includes deep resentment leads only to futility and unhappiness.”  If resentment is this much of a problem, it is another area that you want to see in your life while it is still small enough to deal with easily.  To many people want to wait until it overtakes them to even recognize it is a problem.  Being watchful for even a slight touch of resentment is a must if one wishes to have recovery or to find any happiness in life.

Pg 67 describes fear as:  “…an evil and corroding thread; the fabric of our existence was shot through with it.”  This includes the fear of looking bad, fear I’m too nice, fear I’m not nice enough, fear of being alone, and on and on.  We have to watch for it and deal with it immediately.

WHAT DO WE DO WHEN THESE THINGS COME UP IN OUR LIVES?

1.  When these crop up, we ask God at once to remove them

If we are powerless and the problems that we are powerless over show up it is only reasonable to seek out One who does have power to help in the fight.  In the words of the authors of the Alcoholics Anonymous book from pg 59:  “Without help it is too much for us.  But there is One who has all power-that One is God.”  A person who does not recognize this yet is not a failure, that person is just stuck at steps 1 and 2.  It does not matter what step that person or their sponsor says that person is on, that person is only working the first 2 steps (“Two-Stepping”).  We must start by enlisting the power of the One who is not powerless.

2.  We discuss them with someone immediately

Each of us must have a few people of good sense who are not afraid to confront us directly that we can discuss our struggles or confusions with.  Some, most or all of them should be people who have gone through a thorough recovery and are reaching back to get you up to where they are.  When you see yourself stumbling, these people should be contacted to talk you through it.  Trying to go it alone is foolish.  How much can you trust a mind that has lied to you in the past without outside guidance?

3.  make amends quickly if we have harmed anyone 

Step 10 is “Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.  Notice the word “promptly.”  This is half of what is stated here.  If you are in the wrong it must be fixed immediately.  It does not matter if the person is more at fault, if you are still mad, if you don’t like that person, if it’s too embarrassing, etc. 

All of what we have just discussed is a spot check inventory.  Once the inventory is done and you realize that you were wrong you cannot be overly concerned about what the other person needs to fix in his or her life.  Pg 67 states:  “Where had we been selfish, dishonest, self-seeking, and frightened?  Though a situation had not been entirely our fault, we tried to disregard the other person involved entirely.  Where were we to blame?  The inventory was ours, not the other man’s.”

THE STEPS ARE ABOUT FIXING YOU NOT ABOUT FIXING OTHER PEOPLE.  The only fixing you do involving other people is fixing the wrongs you have done also known as making amends.

4.  Then we resolutely turn our thoughts to someone we can help.   

Pg 89 states plainly that:  “Practical experience shows that nothing will so much insure immunity from drinking as intensive work with other alcoholics.  It works when other activities fail.”  Working with others is one of the strongest tools we each have to fight against the things which will lead us backwards in our recoveries. 

Notice however that the passage from pg 89 is not just talking about service (as so many say) it is far more specific:  “intensive work.”  In other words, leading another human being through the process of recovery is absolutely key to keeping your own recovery on track. 

Serving coffee and chairing meetings are good services and help, but are not what is described here.

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If you look carefully, you can actually see Steps 10, 11 and 12 all here in what has been just described.  This is a big part of what the new you is supposed to look like.  This may not be the way you are used to living life, but the way you had been living life has been a part (or the root) of your trouble.  If you are not different, you are the same and can expect the same results.

If there is not a new you, you are still the old you.  Step 10 is explained on pg. 84 as “…we continue to take personal inventory and continue to set right any new mistakes as we go along.  We vigorously commenced this way of living as we cleaned up the past.” 

As you clean up the past starting at Step 8 and by making amends quickly whenever you have harmed anyone you are building the foundations of the new “way of living” mentioned here. 

Mastering Resentments

We saw that these resentments must be mastered, but how?  We could not wish them away any more than alcohol.  (Alcoholics Anonymous pg 66)

This is a key to the process of recovery.  In looking at the 4th step part of how you know that you have reached a point where you are ready to start on a 5th Step is that you:  

“…have begun to learn tolerance, patience and good will toward all men, even our enemies, for we look on them as sick people.”  (Alcoholics Anonymous pg 70)

My experience has been that many who are supposedly working 12 Step programs are not even aware that this is part of the process and definitely not aware that this is part of the 4th Step.  Many also have no idea what to do to achieve this end.

On page 66, upon completion of the 3 Column inventory which is where you list the person you are resentful at, the cause, and how it affects you, you are instructed to turn back to the list.  This is where the text literally says “We realized that the people who wronged us were perhaps spiritually sick.”  But how does one come to that realization.  That question is answered on pg 67 with the words:  “We asked God…”  Then the passage goes on to give examples of what to pray:

“We asked God to Help us show them the same tolerance, pity, and patience that we would cheerfully grant a sick friend…This is a sick man.  How can I be helpful to him?  God save me from being angry.  Thy will be done.”

To work through this process, a person must actually turn a corner so as to see the people and the situations that bring up feelings of anger, pain, resentment and so on completely differently.  An area which for some can be misleading is the idea that if you say the words listed above or something similar the fact you said the words will magically fix the feelings and you will be healed.

The more clear idea of the process one should be undertaking for every resentment listed on the 3 column part of the 4th Step can be found near the end of the Personal Stories (Testimony) section of the Alcoholics Anonymous book. 

“If you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for that person or the thing that you resent you will be free.  If you will ask in prayer for everything you want for yourself to be given to them, you will be free.  Ask for their health, their prosperity, their happiness, and you will be free.  Even when you don’t really want it for them and your prayers are only words and you don’t mean it, go ahead and do it anyway.  Do it every day for two weeks, and you will find you have come to mean it and want it for them, and you will realize that where you feel bitterness and resentment and hatred, you now feel compassionate understanding and love.”  (Alcoholics Anonymous pg 552 – 4th Edition)

It’s not just saying the words, it is continuous seeking of that change until the change actually occurs.  Not only are you supposed to be learning to release that person, but learning to desire good things to be happening to that person, even to the point (as mention in the prayer from pg 67) of looking for ways to be helpful to them getting these good things.

The question is:  “We saw that these resentments must be mastered, but how?”   The answer is an acrostic:  “P.U.S.H.”

                                          P = Pray

                                          U = Until

                                          S = Something

                                          H = Happens

Self-Knowledge and Recovery

…But, the actual or potential alcoholic, with hardly an exception, will be absolutely unable to stop drinking on the basis of self knowledge.  Alcoholics Anonymous pg 39

There is something everyone I have ever worked with in recovery has heard me say several times:

“Information will not keep you sober!”   Write it 100 times.

The truth is there are addicts and alcoholics with deep knowledge of addictions and alcoholism and deep knowledge of recovery who are getting high at the same time you are reading this.  Some are highly educated, some have been to several recovery programs and actually have retained the information, some even have photographic memories, but for some reason are still getting high. 

Education is a huge part of the recovery process but of itself, it is not enough to get you to the finish line.  If the information does not lead to a change in the person’s life, the person still thinks and acts the same but simply knows more.  If a person thinks and acts the same you can only expect the results to be the same. 

When a person eats food the food goes into the mouth, is chewed, then passes through the digestive system where the nutrients are processed out of the food and taken into the system and used (assimilation) or stored for later use, and the waste is passed out of the body.

When a person consumes mental or spiritual food the same should happen

  1. It should first be chewed on in the mind and heart (given thought)
  2. It should go into the digestive system to be processes (deep though on what this means to you and what this means needs to change in your life)
  3. What is needed right now needs to be assimilated or used to bring change in your life
  4. Information that you do not yet need or that you do not yet understand should be held onto until it is needed or better understood (seek understanding don’t just wait for it)
  5. If it does not apply to you, then it is waste. (We eat the fish and spit out the bones.)

There is an old cliché that goes:  “Use it or lose it.”  I think it is better said in this instance as “Use it or lose your fight for recovery.”

The truth is, no matter what you know or don’t know, if you are not changed, you are the same and can expect the same or at least similar results.

Recovery Manifesto 101

From – March, 2010

If a mere code of morals or a better philosophy of life were sufficient to overcome alcoholism, many of us would have recovered long ago.  But we found that such codes and philosophies did not save us, no matter how much we tried.  We could wish to be moral, we could wish to be philosophically comforted, in fact, we could will these things with all our might, but the needed power wasn’t there.  (Alcoholics Anonymous pg 45) 

Many times when people are confronted with a person with addiction or alcoholism related issues the more obvious problems tend to be the way these people seem to act without regard for themselves or others or they simply seem to just not understand how life is supposed to work (or the depth of the problem). 

How many times people have said to us:  “I can take it or leave it alone.  Why can’t he?” “Why don’t you drink like a gentleman or quit?” “That fellow can’t handle his liquor.” “Why don’t you try beer and wine?” “Lay off the hard stuff.” “His will power must be weak.” He could stop if he wanted to.” “She’s such a sweet girl, I should think he’d stop for her sake.” “The doctor told him that if he ever drank again it would kill him, but there he is all lit up again.”  (Alcoholics Anonymous pg 20) 

This appearance of being morally bankrupt or just not getting life are the obvious symptoms of the addict/alcoholic but are not the totality of the problem.  Many who want to help us try to force us too see how flawed our thinking is or try to ram morality down our throats.  The truth of the matter is many of us know our actions may not make sense and deep down inside many of us are angry at ourselves for not being better morally.  

In a vague way their families and friends sense that these drinkers are abnormal, but everybody hopefully awaits the day when the sufferer will rouse himself from his lethargy and assert his power of will.  (Alcoholics Anonymous pg 23) 

All of this implies that the totality of the problem with addicts/alcoholics is a problem of self control.  Self control is a problem for all of us in addiction/alcoholism but there is so much more.  That means that the things listed above are true to some degree, but if those thoughts are the only changes that happen, it will not be enough of a change for those f us in the advanced stages of chemical dependency. 

Some of us filling our heads with such information will make us feel better and more knowledgeable only to almost immediately find ourselves using in spite of our newfound knowledge.  Some of us can use such information and training to stay sober for long periods and then suddenly find ourselves devastated by our own relapse again.  We emerge either with odd excuses that make no sense or with the honest reality that we have no idea why no matter how much we really wanted to stop we have no idea why I did it again. 

If you ask him why he started on the last Run, the chances are he will offer you any one of a hundred alibis.  Sometimes these excuses have a certain plausibility, but none of them really makes sense in the light of the havoc an alcoholic’s drinking bout creates.  They sound like the philosophy of the man who, having a headache, hits himself in the head with a hammer so he can’t feel the ache.  (Alcoholics Anonymous pg 23) 

Teaching us logic would only work if we used some sort of logic to start using.  We often remember no sensible thinking when we went on a run.  We can plan and scheme to get whatever we use, but often that is the full extent of logical thought.  This is a big part of the idea of being powerless. 

This does not excuse this behavior, but it does show that just new ways of thinking are not the totality of the cure.  If a person has knowledge but at times cannot get the brain to process that knowledge that means that more knowledge may not be the solution.  That may just be more that the brain may not process at those certain times. 

Once more:  The alcoholic at certain times has no effective mental defense against the first drink.  Except in a few rare cases, neither he nor any other human being can provide such a defense.  His defense must come fro a Higher Power.  (Alcoholics Anonymous pg 43) 

The point here is that if you cannot trust your own brain and cannot trust your own brain to use the input of others what can help.  Something stronger than what people or you can put into your brain.  Something must become more powerful in your life than your brain (sort of like how drugs, alcohol, or both have become). 

The point can be summed up in this sentence: 

But after a while we had to face the fact that we must find a spiritual way of life-or else.  (Alcoholics Anonymous pg 44)

That is the power for the powerless in very brief form:  “A spiritual way of life”

“Fearless,” “Thorough” and “Brutally Honest” From The Start!

…we beg of you to be fearless and thorough from the very start.  (Alcoholics Anonymous pg 58)

According to Miriam-Webster

  • Fearless = free from fear : brave
  • Thorough = 1 : carried through to completion : exhaustive
    2 a : marked by full detail b : careful about detail : painstaking c : complete in all respects
    d : having full mastery (as of an art)

We went back through our lives.  Nothing counted but thoroughness and honesty.  (Alcoholics Anonymous pg 65)

According to Miriam-Webster

  • Honesty = adherence to the facts: sincerity
     

To work a recovery program particularly a 12 Step program means change.  If you are in recovery and stay the same then you can only expect the same things to result simply because of who you are (still). 

The process of change is uncomfortable.  This is because the process of change begins by stepping out of actions and thoughts that are comfortable and stepping into thoughts and activities that seem (and probably are) very uncomfortable. 

Recovery requires many conscious decisions to just push yourself through activities, thoughts, and interactions that will cause you a great deal of discomfort and in some cases emotional pain. 

This pushing yourself through what you see as terribly uncomfortable is the essence of the word fear as it is used here. 

The truth is that we all would prefer if we could be the way we are and the world around us just change.  There is a certain security in the idea of staying basically the same but just having a few problems go away.  A man named John Lilly said it best when he said:

“Our only security is our ability to change.”
 Somehow most of us find ourselves shying away from these uncomfortable experiences and from the changes we need to make.  The early A.A.’s didn’t just ask, they begged you to be fearless in facing the uncomfortable and in facing the change that is to be the new you. Somehow most of us find ourselves shying away from these uncomfortable experiences and from the changes we need to make.  The early A.A.’s didn’t just ask, they begged you to be fearless in facing the uncomfortable and in facing the change that is to be the new you. If you stay the “same old” you, will get the “same old” results.  If you become a new you, you can expect new results.  EMBRACE THE CHANGE!
Somehow most of us find ourselves shying away from these uncomfortable experiences and from the changes we need to make.  The early A.A.’s didn’t just ask, they begged you to be fearless in facing the uncomfortable and in facing the change that is to be the new you. Let’s move on to the next word; “thoroughness,” by taking the example of cancer treatment.    I am no surgeon, but my understanding of cancer surgery is that the goal is to get out all of the cancer.  If you cut out some of the cancer and leave some the removal of the cancer is just a temporary solution or a postponement of the problem.   It will return.  The more you leave the faster it will probably return even though it is actually not a return because in truth it was never gone. 

Somehow most of us find ourselves shying away from these uncomfortable experiences and from the changes we need to make.  The early A.A.’s didn’t just ask, they begged you to be fearless in facing the uncomfortable and in facing the change that is to be the new you. Let’s move on to the next word; “thoroughness,” by taking the example of cancer treatment.    I am no surgeon, but my understanding of cancer surgery is that the goal is to get out all of the cancer.  If you cut out some of the cancer and leave some the removal of the cancer is just a temporary solution or a postponement of the problem.   It will return.  The more you leave the faster it will probably return even though it is actually not a return because . If you do not get all of the causes of your negative behaviors and thoughts, they come back (or never really leave).  You need to get as much of the root problem(s) as possible out.  Your need to get the ones that lead to your destructive thoughts and actions and change them.  This will change you which changes what you do.  That really is the thoroughness needed for recovery.  Everything you do in the recovery process must be “marked by detail” and you must be “careful about” the details just as the dictionary definition describes.

Now about honesty.  I like to describe what they are talking about here as “brutal honesty.” 

Recovery requires a commitment to being honest with yourself no matter how painful it is. 

In some cases this may require professional treatment due to the depth of what some of us have been through.  The fact is that telling yourself something is not there does not make it disappear.  It must be dealt with at all costs.

All of us have lied to ourselves at times.  We are all capable of this.  The truth is however, that in recovery there is no room for this.  Any area that we are not honest about is an area where we will not see the need to change.  That becomes the cancer left behind after the surgery.

Not doing or changing these things almost certainly leads to failure.

Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path.  Those who do not recover are people who cannot or will not completely give themselves to this simple program, usually men and women who are constitutionally incapable of being honest with themselves.  There are such unfortunates. They are not at fault; they seem to have been born that way.  They are naturally incapable of grasping and developing a manner of living which demands rigorous honesty.  (Alcoholics Anonymous pg 58)

You must fearlessly and thoroughly follow the path and face everything with brutal honesty until you grasp and develop a manner of living that is rooted in this kind of brutal honesty.  This new you will get the new results.
 

To be vital, faith must be accompanied by self sacrifice and unselfish, constructive action.  (Alcoholics Anonymous pg 93) 

In recovery and especially in all things 12 Step there is much debate about spirituality and what that should look like in the recovery process.  Can a person use a chair or a doorknob as a “higher power.”  Is the “higher power” in recovery just a crutch that you use until you finish the rest of the recovery process then you just let that go and go to meetings, and on and on.

One word in this statement changes all of that and that word is “vital.”  From Merriam-Webster’s dictionary we get the following definition: 

concerned with or necessary to the maintenance of life

Something that is vital is in effect something that is necessary for your life.  The faith that you base your recovery on and the object of that faith must be understood as necessary for life like air, food, water, or blood pumping through your heart.  It is not just a formality, the faith in a power greater than yourself is the faith in what will be the absolute foundation of your life from now on.

Next this sentence describes an attitude and type of action that comes from having this “vital” kind of faith.  If the faith you have and the object of that faith are indeed “vital” then a change will occur in you and will be expressed in all you think and do.  If you change something that is vital and improve on it the results will also change.

If you go from smog to clean air you will breathe better.  If you go from drinking dirty water to clean water you will be healthier.  If you have contaminated blood in your system don’t they try to get more pure blood into your system so you can run better.  If you make these changes and something better is not happening, then there is a problem. 

Notice that the words “self sacrifice” and in describing the actions we make afterwards “unselfish” are used.  Pg 64 in the Alcoholics Anonymous book states clearly: 

Selfishness – self-centeredness!  That, we think, is the root of our troubles (Pg 62).

Addiction and alcoholism is about a focus on “what I think makes me comfortable.”  This faith in God changes it over to what I think (and learn) makes God comfortable.  This change in my attitude is measured by how much change there is in my actions.  If I am feeling like I am unselfish, but my actions are very selfish, are my feelings correct or is the evidence as seen through my actions correct.  The actions are the true measure!

In other words, No matter how you feel, if you are not different, you are the same. 

Burn the idea into the consciousness of every man that he can get well regardless of anyone.  The only condition is that he trust in God and clean house.  (Alcoholics Anonymous pg 98)

There is a recovery process and it is summed up as 2 things:

  1. Trust in God
  2. Clean House (Step 4)

In other words, faith and action as described above. 

If a repetition is to be prevented, place the problem, along with everything else, in God’s hands.  Alcoholics Anonymous pg 120

The point is unselfish faith in God and the resulting unselfish actions are the marks of recovery and in reality are the recovery process.

Special Holiday Encouragement

From – Monday, December 4th, 2006

Happy holidays to all. I hope that as you are reading this you are experiencing the joy that we all are supposed to experience during this season. After all the Christmas story is a story of hope, faith, and love.

This season is always a challenge for me and many of those in recovery at all stages of the process. If you are one of the people struggling as you read this, please never give up hope. Like our big “Alcoholics Anonymous” book states, “How dark it is before the dawn!” (BB pg8). And it goes on to say “I was to know happiness, peace, and usefulness, in a way of life that is incredibly more wonderful as time passes.” I find it an tremendous thought that a challenging time may simply be the indicator that happiness and peace are soon to come.

One of the biggest keys to our individual survival is that all of us must continue to get together with others like ourselves to support each other and we all must seek to find those in need of the recovery gift we have been given and pass it on. “…nothing will so much ensure immunity from drinking as intensive work with other alcoholics. It works when all other activities fail” (BB pg 89).

I hope to personally be in your circle of recovery friends (if I am not already). Please email me through this website keep in touch throughout this holiday season. I hope we can strengthen each other through this season and beyond.

As far as an update on my recent events; what a couple of months this has been. I have just recently returned from a trip to assist with the rebuilding of the south after 2005’s hurricanes Katrina and Rita. It was tough to see so many still living in trailers with still devastated homes, but thanks to the generosity of people like yourself our organization has been able to send teams of skilled laborers and purchase supplies to assist in the rebuilding of homes and lives in Mississippi and Louisiana.

The holiday season always brings with it great opportunity for service of many sorts. We always like to have events to give to the poor and needy of our communities and this year, as every year, we have had no shortage of opportunities to serve. There has been Thanksgiving food boxes for low-income families, thanksgiving dinners for the homeless, warm winter jacket and clothing giveaways, toy giveaways for underprivileged children and many other awesome events of this nature. I am thankful to have been allowed to participate in such a great means of service and such an awesome tool for maintaining sobriety. I hope that this will become a part of the recovery of many others, especially as a part of the holiday seasons. These selfless acts are a huge part of our ability to keep on the right path throughout the holidays. Remember = “Selfishness – Self-centeredness! That we think is the root of our troubles.” (BB pg 62) Selfless acts are an awesome strengthener.

“We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness.” (BB pg 83)

I hope that this Christmas brings the hope and promise of freedom for all of us from addictions and despair as the Christmas story has brought the promise of hope and freedom to the world for the past 2000 years.

The Old and New Recovery Nework Blog

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I went to post a blog yesterday and poof – the whole blog and the host were GONE!!!  So I am Starting again from scratch in the hope that I can get all those old posts back (I dont keep copies)…..

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference…

I hope you enjoy

Wade H.