Thoroughly Followed or Thoroughly Ignored
Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path. Those who do not recover are people who cannot or will not completely give themselves to this simple program, usually men and women who are constitutionally incapable of being honest with themselves. There are such unfortunates. They are not at fault; they seem to have been born that way. They are naturally incapable of grasping and developing a manner of living which demands rigorous honesty. Their chances are less than average. (Alcoholics Anonymous pg. 58)
This is a fairly well known passage from the Alcoholics Anonymous book and it contains some key concepts that are often missed by those claiming to be working or to have worked recovery. The really odd thing here is that the key parts are put out there so clearly that it would seem that you would have to work pretty hard to miss those key points.
The first sentence says it just about as clearly as it could be. It basically says; if you want the recovery program to work you have to do the actual recovery program. “It works if you work it!” and it wont work if you don’t work it!!!
You have to “thoroughly follow” the same “Steps” that the people who are writing here took. You have to do the same if you want to expect the same. If you do something different, then you can expect something different.
I have recently encountered and have heard a few discussions about people who did a bit of this and a bit of that from the Twelve Steps and then believe; “all will be fine.”
I would have to say that that if I went to a recovery program (in this case a Twelve Step Program) and put my future in the hope that what those people offer is my hope then I would have to do whatever they wanted me to do.
Many people go into recovery with this hope and somehow don’t do what the people tell them they are supposed to do. Then such a person person decides not to do what they tell him/her to do to as recovery or only some parts of it? If this person is not doing the program they outline, what exactly is this person doing? Is just being around people working recovery doing nothing or just the few things you are comfortable enough to get sobriety really a recovery program?
The supporting evidence these people use for this reasoning are reasons like: “I’ve been sober six months now”, “I feel like I’m better, so I don’t need this stuff”, “I am losing interest so that means I’m done” and on and on.
The truth is that these people are not working recovery and not doing recovery, they are avoiding the work of recovery.
The minute you start cutting corners happens to be the minute you cease to be working recovery. Either you completely give yourself to the simple program or you do not. There is no kinda doing it.
All of this cutting corners and justifying it to yourself is really foolish when you look at the facts. The fact that you decided this program would work and went there and did something else is foolish enough without lying to yourself and others to keep it that way.
Lying to yourself is not being honest with yourself. According to this passage those who cannot be honest with themselves are doomed to epic failure.
If your recovery program finds its foundation in lies you tell yourself and to others, how can you possibly hope to grasp and develop “a manner of living which demands rigorous honesty.” If you are not doing the things that you felt could help you change and then lying about it knowing that one of the key goals is a lifestyle that demands rigorous honesty, you are making the choice to fail.
For any of you who are going into recovery or are already in recovery here are some facts to consider:
- If you don’t trust that the people you are working with or the program you are working with can give you recovery; why would you waste your life and time and everybody else’s lives and time.
- If you do trust them and what they do and yet do not do everything they tell you to do are you really trusting them? NO!!! You do not really trust them (refer back to the previous statement)
- If you do trust them and what they do and yet do not do everything they tell you to do as the path to freedom can you really expect the results that are supposed to come from doing those things? NO!!! Expect some other results (such as relapse perhaps)!!!
If you have done recovery like this and do not see any problems (yet), please go back and do whatever it is that you trusted until you started to trust the lie. Do not allow yourself to be one of those “unfortunates”!
Stay sober my friends;